Author Graeme Simsion said: "It's a reminder that the path to finding a life partner can be a long and rocky one - and indeed is for most of us.

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As long as we stick to God’s principles and deal with one another in a God-honoring way, we have the freedom to pursue relationships in the way that works best for each of us.

Sometimes courtship is presented as the “best way to do relationships,” but I don’t think that’s true.

Because no matter how you look at it, one person’s pro is another person’s con.

The pros found in the security of “moving only toward marriage” are the potential cons of premature emotional entanglement and potentially devastating heartbreak when things don’t pan out as planned.

That it was “practice for divorce.” That it was for people who weren’t “waiting on God” but rather taking life into their own hands. I was a young woman who wanted to please God with all of my heart. But eventually, I learned that there WAS a way to honor God in my relationships with the opposite sex, and it didn’t necessarily involve side-hugs, chaperones, a commitment to marriage before the first date, or even the no-kissing-before-marriage rule (though these are all fine goals to have so long as God puts them on your heart! What I am saying here, is that maybe churches need to stop pushing courtship or certain ways of dating and consider that there are truly other ways to honor God in relationships.

And so, for a time, those Courtship scare-tactics totally worked! Here’s why: Just like different personalities respond to different kinds of music, food, hobbies and career goals—we’re all wired to respond differently to relationships.For each pro, there is a potential con depending on who you are and how you approach relationships.Healthy relationships aren’t about eliminating all cons, because that’s not possible, but instead, they are about making the most of our interactions with the opposite sex by doing them in a way that leaves us with no regrets.Courtship can’t be the only way because it really comes down to pursuing relationships in the way that God calls us to, rather than simply in the way we’re told.I think of the hundreds of men and women I know whose stories may have broken the mold of tradition or culture, but who never broke the calling of God on their lives because their stories were part of a bigger plan—a plan that trumps the debate of “courtship” or “dating” but that asks each of us to move into relationships with wisdom, godliness and nothing short of God’s leading in our lives. Subscribe, choose the community that you most identify with or want to learn more about and we’ll send you the news that matters most once a week throughout Trump’s first 100 days in office.