I cannot tell you how many men I have clicked with via email online dating, to have them ask for my number.

I’ve asked them to call me and, instead, have received a text with the expectation of having a full, personal, get-to-know-each-other convo via text messages. Some men have respected my request and others have labeled me “tough” or “hard to get.” Sadly, I bet I have missed out on a few good guys who just don’t give good phone, but I’m willing to take my chances and hold out for the guys who want to make the effort to know me.

He let me know he saw me on there a few times and I made a few snarky remarks about him always being on there.

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Now, there are always exceptions and last minute fun events or basketball tickets that come up, but we are focusing here on the beginning stages of dating, so humor me.

My girlfriends and I have talked this topic to death and we have all said “no” to last minute dates and, of course, been accused of playing hard to get for it.

Now, Guys, I want to be clear, this does not mean that we don’t want to spend time with you, but that we really don’t have it to give you right now. You will know quickly which woman is playing and which is truly busy, but is also into you.

The latter will make an effort to see you as soon as she can. I am a rules girl and I choose not to accept a date the night of and, quite frankly, often not past Thursday morning for a weekend date.

If any of you are single dads, then you know that priorities shift when you have children.

Some of these women will be both career women and single moms, at which they will truly be challenged with time to date you.

It really is like a basketball game; the ball bounces from your court to her court at different times, especially at the beginning when you are learning about one another.

I am definitely guilty of having a guy pursue and chase me and make it oh-so-easy early on that I have felt like I didn’t have to work as hard to build something. He skips calling me for a day or two or doesn’t ask me out for Saturday night and I go cray-cray.

They are traveling for work and some are working more than one job to stay afloat.