In general, women will turn up in groups, and be more relaxed and confident about the affair.

Whilst sociable women might see Speed Dating as an opportunity to broaden their pool of options, attractive, sociable men very rarely consider speed dating an option (unless they’ve been dragged along by a friend).

The unfortunate reality of singles events (and this applies all over the world) is that women will always attend.

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A member of the opposite sex has to talk to you for at least four minutes, and so this encourages the most nervous types of daters.

People who wouldn’t normally approach the opposite sex in the real world. But the problem with speed dating, is that often the women who are attracted to speed dating events are VERY different to the men.

When you write a dating blog, speed dating is part of the territory.

And so for the last 2 years, I’ve attended more speed dating events than I can count. ‘Elite’ speed dating, silent speed dating, blind speed dating, paper bag speed dating, cycle speed dating, literary speed dating … But no matter the gimmick, it always seems to come down to the same brutal truth. Speed dating originated in 1998, and was set up by an American rabbi, as a way for young, single Jewish people to meet one another.

Usually advance registration is required for speed dating events.

Men and women are rotated to meet each other over a series of short "dates" usually lasting from three to eight minutes depending on the organization running the event.Because the matching itself happens after the event, people do not feel pressured to select or reject each other in person.On the other hand, feedback and gratification are delayed as participants must wait a day or two for their results to come in.I’ve even seen a woman raise her score sheet above her head at the end of the night, and demonstratively rip it to shreds … I’ve seen men break down in tears, struggle to find conversation topics to last 4 minutes, and most recently one guy admitted he came regularly to speed dating events because it’s the only time women will talk to him!Even if you aren’t the most socially confident person, speed dating can be more of a bane, because the nature of it – a short 4 or 5 minute judgment, sitting face on with a stranger in a forced environment – can make it feel like an interview, and make you even more nervous and awkward.There are many speed dating events now in the United Kingdom, Canada, and the United States.