It's like there is a constant trial-and-error going on in order to find out who you can actually see yourself with.In Europe, on the other hand, not many people are ever in a relationship, but if you have a boyfriend/girlfriend, it actually means something and will probably last for a while.But aside from visual aspects, girls in the States expect to live their lives like Barbie in her dreamhouse, with her super-manly successful boyfriend. But while these expectations are high, I often find that putting guys on a pedestal and doing anything in order to get their attention is a big part of getting to this ultimate goal.
I could hardly find anyone who wasn't in a relationship and who wasn't engaged in some serious PDA all over the place, complete with holding hands, wearing matching clothes, constantly uploading a super-couple-y profile picture on Facebook and so on.
It felt almost as though each person played their role in the perfect relationship, but could easily repeat it the following week with somebody else.
People don't tend to go on ‘dates' with complete strangers but instead often get to know someone who's already in their circle or the friend of a friend, and then it ‘just happens' and they decide to go out together alone. There aren't too many rigid rules, either: "In the Netherlands there are no set rules – you might do all or nothing on the first or tenth date," and, "the timescale between the first date and having sex in France could be anything from 20 years to 20 seconds," said European expats.
Making the first move in Europe In France, Germany and Belgium, it's common for the man to ask a woman out, but in Switzerland, the men can be a little reserved so women might want to give them a nudge.
From my experience at an American university, I understand that dating in the U. is a lot more spontaneous and relies a lot less on checking every detail about the other person.
Love is found, and dismissed, very casually and almost according to the preferences of the particular day.
This is exactly the problem that Europeans face, they make finding a partner an endless quest that resembles the quest of the grail, over complicating their lives and sometimes missing out on necessary learning experiences of short-term failed relationships.
4 comments The dating game can be hard enough in your home country, and even trickier if you're navigating an international dating scene without knowing how the game is played.
This leads me to my next point, of commitment not being the serious part of the relationship.
Apparently, a boyfriend or girlfriend is defined as being the most current interesting or comfortable member of the opposite sex that one can find, which also means that the relationship status is often likely to change in almost as short an amount of time that the neck needs to direct the face's gaze into a new direction.
Here's a guide to take you through your first Euro date.