It's like no one wants to acknowledge that it's happening, even though it is. Because we'll go into the marriage with me having more respect for her and her having more trust in me.One thing I've learned: if a girl doesn't trust a guy, she doesn't want to give herself wholly to him.

Something I've discovered is that, when you honor a woman, you are honoring yourself. Because someday you will have regret, and the regret will last much longer than the pleasure.

In the movie best interest), you honor yourself and insure that you will have no long-lasting regrets to live with.

Maybe it's just built into "the system." But one thing's for sure: I'm not alone. I know many people having marital problems because they engaged in premarital sex.

They go into the marriage with lack of respect and lack of trust, two absolute necessities for the health of any marriage.

The two things were this: 1) I lost respect for the girl (even though I didn't want to); and 2) she began to mistrust me (even though she didn't want to).

I don't know why this happened, I just know that it did.

So you would imagine that having sex would have been completely fulfilling -- the crowning achievement in the worship of my "god." And yet, there was often a lack of fulfillment afterwards. Why is it that sex, if it's so important to me, leaves me with an empty feeling? I then concluded: "I just need more [sex], that's all." (We often think this way about stuff we hope will fulfill us, then doesn't.

For example, we get the car we've always wanted, but then it's just "okay" after awhile. There wouldn't be any "emptiness." I've found that girls often don't fully understand what's going on when it comes to sex.

Here's what I mean: most of the girls I've been with are now married to other men.

When I put myself in the shoes of those men, I wish that I hadn't done what I've done. Would I want some guy like me taking advantage of her? They're someone else's future wife, someone else's daughter, sister, etc.

And while something inside her is telling her it's the right thing to do, something inside the guy is telling him just the opposite, yet he proceeds. For the physical pleasure no doubt, but also, I think, for another reason: it makes him feel like a man.