I strongly believe that it does not have to be this way.If more thought were given to proper considerations of others, the injuries would be significantly reduced. There is an all-encompassing Biblical principle that must be applied in relationships. ‘Do to others as you would have them do to you.’ Perhaps you recognize this as the Golden Rule.

Share this with them in an open and considerate manner.

Take time to process any issues When an obstacle develops in the relationship, do not immediately look for the door – unless it is a major offense.

However the realities of life reveal that we have or we will very likely experience this one.

Everyone needs to give some thought to the process of breaking up if they intend to relate to others.

HOW TO HANDLE NEW RELATIONSHIPS Seek reality As you approach a new relationship, keep fantasy in check and seek reality.

It is thrilling to find someone paying attention to you and wants to spend time with you.

It will not only serve the relationship well if you take the time to process the item, but will improve your relationship skills for this or another relationship. Too often the conversation begins with ‘you are doing something that irritates me.’ Whenever the word YOU is used in discussing something that is bothering the relationship, it puts the other person on the defensive. Focus on yourself and what the feeling is that you are experiencing.

When discussing, don’t use “You” I want to share a fundamental key when discussing something that may be controversial or confrontational with another person. Something like ‘I would like to share how I feel when I hear you say..’ You may have a misunderstanding of the motives behind the words or actions.

However the initial stages of ‘connecting’ is a dance where everyone is on their best behavior.

Do not contribute to the fantasy as you enjoy getting to know the other person.

Yet, how do you discern whether to move things forward or backward?