Her wants and expectations are just as complicated as yours.

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RELATED: What It's Like Trying To Date Women As A Bisexual Man Until I discovered asexuality, I didn’t have any reference point to describe what I was experiencing, which made social norms and environments rather confusing for me, but which also left me feeling broken and like I would never be able to form any kind of significant relationship in my life.

Sometimes, people can find the word ‘asexual’ and instantly connect to it, as was the case for me.

Asexuality is a sexual orientation that generally describes a lack of sexual attraction to others.

This means that as an asexual person, no matter who I look at, I won’t (and indeed, can’t) desire to have any kind of sexual contact with them, regardless of how conventionally attractive they may be.

Once you’ve done your reading, you might start this series of conversations with some of these questions: What does being asexual mean to you? Are you only looking for a romantic relationship right now?

How did you find that word and what made you decide to apply it to yourself? (Are just looking for a romantic relationship right now?

It sounds like you’ve reached the scary but inevitable part of getting to know someone where you realize that as much as you like that person, they aren’t quite how you had been imagining them. You’ll be living it every time you engage with another human being, whether you just met them, you’ve been married to them for decades, or they’ve raised you from infancy.

No matter what, people are never exactly what we imagine them to be.

Does your sexuality label convey everything about what you want out of a relationship, what you like, and what compromises you’re willing to make? You can’t assume that you know everything about what she wants, likes, and is willing to compromise on just because you know how she labels her sexuality either. You need to consider how important sex is to you in this particular relationship.